Scripture of the Week (SOW) formerly known as the Scripture of the Day (SOD): April 2021

Thursday, April 29, 2021

Trust in the Name (4/29/2021)

SALUTATIONS: Hey yall! I hope yall had a wonderful week thus far. It's been a challenging couple of months for me to say the least, but as yall know part of my journey has been an ever-rising need to exercise dependence on the Lord. The fact that my favorite scripture Psalm 118:8 (read it here https://rb.gy/ii249v) admonishes us of the importance of placing our trust in God over man, you'd think it would've gotten easier by now. But the Lord never promised an easy peezy journey. "In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted" (2 Timothy 3:12, NIV). To be persecuted is to be subjected to antagonism and mal-treatment because of your religious beliefs; to be persistently annoyed or harassed. But when everything around you dims, the only thing left is to trust; trust in the name of the Lord. Let's get into it. As always, take time to review ALL of the Announcements, Healthy Living Tips, and other information detailed below, following the Reflections and Power in Prayer, whenever time permits. Your continued support is always appreciated. Keep spreading God's Gospel and feel free to share the Scripture of the Week with the hashtag SOW. Enjoy! **Disclaimer: Production and distribution days of the SOW are subject to change without warning*

PRAISE REPORTS: We prayed for Gabriel not too long ago, I just wanted yall to know that his surgeries were successful and he's recovering well. His family sends their gratitude for your prayers. I'm thankful that even though my circumstances aren't ideal, I am blessed with everything that I need. And although I was unsuccessful with the negotiation for my desired lower selling price on my book, my life coach helped me to see that my book has value for someone; I will trust that the Lord will lead those individuals to become consumers, and even if He doesn't, I'll be grateful to have the official title of author. Father God, we thank you. We believe but mend our unbelief. Hallelujah! If you have a specific praise report, please share, because we “overcame [the adversary] by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of [our] testimony” (Revelation 12:11). **NOTE: All praise reports are shared with reference to your name unless anonymity is specified**

PRAYER REQUESTS: This week let's focus our collective prayers on increasing our trust and dependency on the Lord. Let's continue to pray for one another and thank Yahweh for the victory while refraining from confessing the problem caused by the enemy; ALWAYS pray for the desired result, NOT the unfavorable outcome (refer to the book The Tongue – A Creative Force, by Charles Capps; you can download your FREE copy here https://rb.gy/niy4go). If you or someone you know needs prayer, let me know, and your request will be added to the following SOW. **NOTE: All prayer requests are shared with reference to your name and need unless anonymity is specified**

BE ENCOURAGED: NEVER lose sight of God amidst adversity… Ponder this: "Whether it's friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust. Without it, you have nothing" (yourtango.com). I'm no theological scholar, and even if I were a pastor or an expert on God's word, I would still advise you NEVER to take someone else's word as solid truth; "Study to show thyself approved" (2 Timothy 2:15), and CHALLENGE EVERYTHING by comparing it to the Word of God. If what you see, hear, or read does NOT fall in line with the Word of God, then it is NOT true... The rest of this day isn't promised, let alone tomorrow, so why not strengthen your faith TODAY? Feed your body healthy nutrition, be cautious of what things you allow your eyes, ears, and spirit to be exposed to (e.g., media, books, TV, music, etc.) so that YOU can start anew and become a better you NOW, rather than later. If you need someone to help you get there, or you're looking for an accountability partner, you've come to the right place. Here I am.

FEATURED SONGS OF PRAISE: "I Will Trust" by Fred Hammond (you can listen to it here https://rb.gy/d3boeg) and "I Trust You" by James Fortune & FIYA (you can listen to it here https://rb.gy/o0gw2r). I would also like to recommend Classical for Studying Radio on Pandora to better facilitate your meditation on the Word as you study, you can listen to that station here https://rb.gy/wtbmva.

OPENING PRAYER: Yahweh, please let your presence set the tone for how this lesson will flow and how we will grow from it. Clear our minds and open our eyes, ears, and hearts so that we may be decreased in self and increased in you. Fill us with your presence through the Holy Spirit to see as we look, to listen as we hear, and to come into alignment with your word and your will. Help us to receive, believe, and apply your truth, that we may be transformed by your intended message from this fellowship and become better as a result of it. In the name of Yeshua, Amen!

KEY PASSAGE(S) – PROVERBS 3:5-6: "5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths."

**Unless otherwise indicated all Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible retrieved from https://www.biblegateway.com/passage**

REFLECTIONS: Persecution goes beyond our human logic because societal influence would have you question God's motives and/or your Christianity when you deem yourself a "good person" yet find yourself experiencing constant misfortune, trials, and tribulation. But I'd like to submit for your consideration, perhaps the fact that the one that rarely or never experiences hardship would indicate that there is a disconnect with his/her relationship and following of Christ.

Ponder this, if the adversary is trying so hard to keep you in poor spirits what would good spirits, despite, do for your testimony? You ever think about that? "Lord why me?" Instead, ask yourself, "why not me?" What does your story have that many others do not? Rather, what does your narrative have that the enemy is fighting so hard to keep it silenced? What can weaponizing your testimony do for someone in the same or similar predicament? For instance, if you come from a family plagued with the generational cycle of sexual abuse but you're an overcomer, your testimony will be relatable to children and adults who have gone through or are going through similar traumatic memories and their negative effects. Growing up, it would've been nice to know that I wasn't alone, or that someone somewhere supported my internal pain because they too had lived through it. It's a whole different level of respect for someone's advice or words of wisdom when you know that their backstory validates the knowledge they're delivering.

It is the traumatic moments that taint our vision of God and negatively impact the amount of trust we place in Him as we develop. However, it is through the continued seeking of His presence, through the Holy Spirit, that we feel Him enough to keep hope alive. Yet, hope is nothing without faith, and without trust, there is no faith. C. H. Spurgeon said this, "To trust God in the light is nothing, but trust Him in the dark that is faith." The Bible says that "we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). Think about a blind person, they trust in their ability to hear and to feel, and as they walk that trust develops their faith to safely make it from point A to point B. What if they're deaf and blind? They still have their sense of feeling and they utilize that skill to do what many with sight and hearing struggle with daily. C. H. Spurgeon's quote is just another way of saying "blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed" (John 20:29).

We spend a great deal of our infancy in Christ wishing that we could experience the modern-day miracles of the past, forgetting that "even after Jesus had performed so many signs in their presence, they still would not believe in Him" (John 12:37, NIV). It's easy to say what we would and wouldn't do when we aren't faced with the reality of the situation. I said I would never get an abortion, yet, when I was in my early 20s, deployed in Cuba away from the would-be father of my unborn child, I got the procedure because I felt that I wasn't mentally ready to be a mother. I said I would never stay with a man who was disrespectful or abusive, but time and time again, I found myself in situationships with guys who belittled, disrespected, mistreated, and verbally abused me. We can say that IF we saw a miracle from God we'd have something to believe in - to trust in, but have you ever taken the time to jot down the many times He has come through for you in a very specific way? If you really took time to do inventory on your life and your blessings, you'd see that amongst them, God has already provided so many miracles.

When I was about 17, the doctors told me I couldn't have children and that was devastating. Yet, at 22 I found myself pregnant. I planned to have the baby, but as I selfishly considered what bringing a child into my world at that time would look like, I reluctantly chose abortion. I learned from that situation and vowed never to repeat it. For many years that decision haunted me and I thought that my punishment would be infertility, but God allowed me to birth my precious baby boy and EVERY thing I'd prayed for over my pregnancy and children as a kid through adulthood, came to fruition. Might not be a miracle to society's terms, but for me, God delivered exactly as I had hoped. He did the same with my prayer to enter the military and the selling of my home. I'd be lying if I said that everything in my life is blissful, and I'd also be lying if I said that I don't have all that I need. I am very fortunate and blessed, and I am grateful for that.

Things around me have turned dim and I have found myself crying and anxious about what's next for me. I've been racking my brain trying to figure it all out myself. Yes, I've been praying, but I've also been putting trust and understanding in me fearful that God would not deliver in a way that's favorable to me. Do you know what the Holy Spirit did for me yesterday during one of those moments? He played the chorus "I will trust, trust in the name of the Lord, trust in the name of the Lord, Lord I will trust in you" from Fred Hammond's song "I Will Trust," in my head on repeat; I went into my room and fell to my knees crying, I recited Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) aloud "6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Then I realized that my bible had been on my bed opened on the same page for 2 days, so I read: "trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. 7 Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil" (Proverbs 3:5-7, NIV). Tell me that's not God. He knew I would receive some information that would trigger anxiety and an emotional roller coaster, so He allowed me to keep that Book opened to the right page; He immediately provided a nudge from His Spirit within me to listen to His voice and combat the enemy with His Truth, so I did.

If you have not taken the time to evaluate your blessings fully, then you've probably turned a blind eye to our modern-day miracles or failed to give God credit for your fortune. Remember Him the way He has remembered you... think of a time it coulda been you in that grave, it shoulda been you doing 10 to life, it woulda been you if it was not for His blood. WE are responsible for remembering His promises; if YOU fail to remain in relationship with Him through "prayer and petition with thanksgiving" (Philippians 4:6, NIV), then we cannot blame Him when we fail to hear His still small voice or fail to recognize the modern-day miracles because we did not trust in the name of the Lord. #SOW

POWER IN PRAYER: POWER IN PRAYER: Lord we thank you for life, love, grace, health, strength, and integrity. We're grateful that in you, despite our current circumstances we've been blessed with all that is life-sustaining. Lord as we write our plans in pencil take the eraser and blot out anything that does not fall in line with your will. Lord turn our attention from selfish desires and may our desires be realigned with yours. May we seek intimacy with you so that we recognize your voice as you reveal the many ways you're working in our lives; may we acknowledge the moments when you are silent because you're teaching us how to wait on you, or keeping us from making a mistake when bigger is right around the corner. Father, we believe but help our unbelief as we trust in the name of the Lord; as you work everything out behind the scenes, may our relationship be strong enough in you that we trust your timing and process. In the meantime Father, provide the peace that passes all understanding as we take back our faith in man and surrender our trust to you. May we be wise in our dealings, knowledgeable in your Word, discerning in our decisions, and full of your understanding. May we meditate on the things above so that we always think, speak, and behave in a way that glorifies you. As your angels and Holy Spirit do your bidding on Earth and in Heaven, protect us and them with your recourse as you bind, loose, and cast out the demonic spirits of distraction, destruction, retaliation, revenge, and backlash. All these things we ask and thank you, in the matchless name of Yeshua, Amen!

HEALTHY LIVING TIPS: Change begins within... Hello adult acne sufferers. I am a 40 y/o mother who lived through puberty and adolescence with not a single pimple. Mid-thirties until now it's been an ongoing battle to get rid of the flareups. Well, I may have stumbled across a tip or two that not only helps to calm the breakouts, but also helps to decrease that excess pouch on the lower belly. What's the secret? Cut out dairy. I know, I know. I LOOOOVE me some ice cream, Pralines and Cream to be exact. I also love my sweets, another thing I cut out. But being 40 with painful cystic acne that has new flareups on top of acne that hasn't even cleared yet, you'll try any and everything. I've tried so many products, natural, and chemicals. I've had laser acne treatment, facials, a colonic, detoxes, teas, supplements, and more. What I never committed to was a diet change.

In the past, I've tried pescatarian, vegetarian, and vegan diets and none seemed to be 100% effective. In fact, on the vegan diet, my acne worsened, I lost too much weight and ended up in the hospital with low blood pressure. I had replaced meat with meat substitutes that were processed and often contained soy. When I wasn't eating vegan, I NEVER cut out the ice cream or cheese. Don't you just love a nice slab of cheddar? Anyway, I continued eating and/or drinking products that were heavy on the added sugars and/or caffeine. I'm not caffeine sensitive, thus, I tend to add caffeine powder to caffeinated teas like green tea, or "natural" energy drinks. However, for the past month, I have cut out meat, dairy, sweets (including bottled juice, sodas, and all energy drinks), caffeine, and junk food. When I say junk, I mean chips, fast food, non-organic processed snacks ( I consumed a handful of organic 3-5 natural/organic ingredients on days I was rushing to meet my schedule and needed something to coat my stomach), cereal, etc.

For my face, I wash it two to three times daily with either a Cetaphil face wash or a salicylic face wash like Neutrogena's grapefruit acne wash (occasionally using a scrub or exfoliating brush). After my first wash, I use a sulfur ointment as a mask for 15 minutes to an hour, then I wash it off. I apply a brightening toner, followed by a pump of aloe vera gel (with manuka honey), vitamin c serum, and calming serum. In the a.m. I apply Ora's Amazing Herbal All Purpose Salve as a spot treatment followed by Cetaphil Derma Control Oil Absorbing Moisturizer with SPF. At night, I follow the same steps, except after I apply the salve, I spot treat any inflamed pimples with 5% Benzoyl Peroxide. I also began taking a supplement called Acnetame, but it's too soon to give you a full testimonial on that. But with the diet restrictions, my usual 3-6 times a week exercise routines, and facial cleansing, my acne has diminished and been healing quicker. My acne scars have also been clearing. Additionally, I noticed that the stubborn pouch around my midsection is almost completely flat. I mean to outsiders, my stomach is washboard regardless, but I can tell the difference.

So, if you are an adult with oily skin, and cystic acne invading your chin, jawline, cheeks, forehead, and other body parts, and you've tried what feels like everything, maybe it's time you try a diet change. NOT a diet, a CHANGE in your diet. Cut out the foods and drinks that don't add healthy nutrition or at least dramatically decrease your consumption of them. Additionally, I'd suggest adding a hair, skin, nail supplement and lots of water.

As always, be mindful of the things you feed your body, both physically and figuratively. Be safe, be blessed, and prioritize your health and wellbeing!

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, or in need of general support, I invite you to join my virtual support group via Zoom; we meet every 3rd Sunday at 2:30 pm PST. Just text "heal" to (323) 800-8616 to be added to our text notifications/reminders. This week we'll be discussing how to cope with traumatic memories. #thecurseisbroken
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Fostering Mind, Body, and Soul Incorporated (FMBS Inc.) helps to facilitate making an impact in surrounding at-risk and underprivileged communities throughout Southern California. Part of our mission is to help supply the homeless as well as needy families with food and hygiene bags throughout the year and especially during the holidays and to serve as mentors and/or advocates for at-risk youth and victims of abuse. But we've been on hiatus due to a lack of support from volunteers and board members. Help me get FMBS Inc. back active in the community yall! I have tons of ideas, yet, little know-how. However, I'm willing to learn; if you have any helpful information or affordable training opportunities please share, and reach out to me regarding your interest in service and/or to arrange another form of contribution; contact me via email at fmbsinc_2012@outlook.com, or leave a voicemail and/or text at (951) 790-2127.

JOIN OUR CAUSE: Fostering Mind, Body, and Soul Incorporated (FMBS Inc.) is on a never-ending quest to locate deserving individuals to extend our services to. Therefore, we are always in need of monetary donations and/or contributions of hygiene items, sealed snacks, bottled water, seasonal items (gloves, scarves, blankets, umbrellas, sunglasses, sunscreen, lip balm, etc.), mini bibles, reading books, and so forth; our YEAR-ROUND mission is to serve homeless and/or needy individuals and families in underprivileged communities throughout Southern California. We also need DEDICATED volunteers and members – is this your calling? Eventually, when we have met our need for volunteers and board members, we will extend our services to assist and address some of the needs of our veterans and their family members. We are successful because of YOUR continued support. Please continue to back us up through participation, and/or by encouraging others to join our cause!

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Respectfully,

Tylesha "Tye" Allen
Behavioral Interventionist | Mobile Notary | Author | Founder of FMBS Inc.
·Mobile: (951) 790-2127
·Address: Los Angeles, CA
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·Change begins within; work on becoming a better You, now not later.
·"It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man." (Psalm 118:8)

Monday, April 19, 2021

Accepted to Rejected (4/19/2021)

SALUTATIONS: Hey yall! I hope yall had a wonderful week thus far. How many of you have felt the sting of rejection from family, friends, or otherwise? This week we're talking about how your authenticity will sometimes end in your being accepted to rejected without notice or cause. But don't fret. Oftentimes our rejection is merely God's redirection to a path that better serves us. Now let's get into it. As always, take time to review ALL of the Announcements, Healthy Living Tips, and other information detailed below, following the Reflections and Power in Prayer, whenever time permits. Your continued support is always appreciated. Keep spreading God's Gospel and feel free to share the Scripture of the Week with the hashtag SOW. Enjoy! **Disclaimer: Production and distribution days of the SOW are subject to change without warning*

PRAISE REPORTS: I'm grateful to be here sharing this message with yall for another consecutive week. Father, we praise you through our rejections, our acceptions, and your redirections. We believe but mend our unbelief. Hallelujah! If you have a specific praise report, please share, because we “overcame [the adversary] by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of [our] testimony” (Revelation 12:11). **NOTE: All praise reports are shared with reference to your name unless anonymity is specified**

PRAYER REQUESTS: This week, let our focus prayer be on deliverance from strongholds, soul ties, and bleak mindsets. Let's continue to pray for one another and thank Yahweh for the victory while refraining from confessing the problem caused by the enemy; ALWAYS pray for the desired result, NOT the unfavorable outcome (refer to the book The Tongue – A Creative Force, by Charles Capps; you can download your FREE copy here https://rb.gy/niy4go). If you or someone you know needs prayer, let me know, and your request will be added to the following SOW. **NOTE: All prayer requests are shared with reference to your name and need unless anonymity is specified**

BE ENCOURAGED: NEVER lose sight of God amidst adversity… Ponder this: "It is not rejection itself that people fear, it is the possible consequences of rejection. Preparing to accept those consequences and viewing rejection as a learning experience that will bring you closer to success, will not only help you to conquer the fear of rejection but help you to appreciate rejection itself" (Robert Foster Bennett). I'm no theological scholar, and even if I were a pastor or an expert on God's word, I would still advise you NEVER to take someone else's word as solid truth; "Study to show thyself approved" (2 Timothy 2:15), and CHALLENGE EVERYTHING by comparing it to the Word of God. If what you see, hear, or read does NOT fall in line with the Word of God, then it is NOT true... The rest of this day isn't promised, let alone tomorrow, so why not strengthen your faith TODAY? Feed your body healthy nutrition, be cautious of what things you allow your eyes, ears, and spirit to be exposed to (e.g., media, books, TV, music, etc.) so that YOU can start anew and become a better you NOW, rather than later. If you need someone to help you get there, or you're looking for an accountability partner, you've come to the right place. Here I am.

FEATURED SONGS OF PRAISE: "God Didn't Give Up" by Deitrick Haddon (you can listen to it here https://rb.gy/3q4mk0) and "Unstoppable" by Koryn Hawthorne (you can listen to it here https://rb.gy/xmevsu). I would also like to recommend Classical for Studying Radio on Pandora to better facilitate your meditation on the Word as you study, you can listen to that station here https://rb.gy/wtbmva.

OPENING PRAYER: Yahweh, please let your presence set the tone for how this lesson will flow and how we will grow from it. Clear our mind and open our eyes, ears, and heart so that we may be decreased in self and increased in you. Fill us with your presence through the Holy Spirit to see as we look, to listen as we hear, to come into alignment with your word and your will, to receive, believe, and apply your truth, that we may be transformed by your intended message from this fellowship and become better as a result of it. In the name of Yeshua, Amen!

KEY PASSAGE(S) – JOHN 12:37, 42-43: "37 But though He had done so many miracles before them, yet they believed not on Him. 42 Nevertheless among the chief rulers also many believed on Him; but because of the Pharisees they did not confess Him, lest they should be put out of the synagogue: 43 For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God."

**Unless otherwise indicated all Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible retrieved from https://www.biblegateway.com/passage**

REFLECTIONS: If you're anything like me, you've wasted a great deal of time comparing yourself to others; "How is it that this person is selfish and inconsiderate, yet continues to prosper while I am compassionate and caring of others, especially people in need. I tithe, I attend church, I volunteer, I do my best to follow God's commands, and yet I see no favor?" Sound familiar? The biggest issue in this scenario is the fact that you're comparing yourself to the perceived prosperity in someone else's life, AND like the "chief rulers [and the] many [who] believed [in God]" (John 12:42) you're seeking man's favor instead of God's. I'm bold enough to suggest that about 95% of the content on social media platforms is a façade. Think about the News. How often do we see a headline about a celebrity marriage on the verge of divorce but the alleged, publicly proclaims it's "fake news" and they're still solid, yet, in months to follow a very public and nasty divorce ensues?

On the outside, we see the smiles, family vacations, game nights, adventures, or enjoyable single-life displayed on people's social media accounts. Don't get me wrong, some are bipolar with their posts, going from 0 to 100 within posts of each other, airing all their dirty laundry only to retract it 2 seconds later. However, for a vast majority, you only see the pretty pictures; pictures that do not depict the reality of the individual's struggles because oftentimes they're lacking authenticity, transparency, and/or integrity. Thus, from the outside looking in, we perceive that ex-partner, ex-friend, or ex-coworker as doing "better" than we are. I'm not a bitter person, so if/when I see someone else's success, friend or foe, I'm happy for them. However, I'd be lying if I said I didn't envy.

What we don't see is the behind-the-scenes, the inner emotions, the struggles, or the truth. But God does. God reads the pages of our heart (read Jeremiah 17:10 here https://rb.gy/wylhlv) not its outer cover. That's why it's said "never read a book by its cover" because you cannot determine its contents without looking inside; we are carnal by nature and have been trained to judge and make assumptions about people based on how they look or appear - stereotypes. Therefore, when we perceive someone as being self-centered, mean, and selfish, we're boggled as to how our contrasted behavior is rejected while theirs appears to be accepted.

The key words there are "perceive" and "appears"; Jesus had followers and He had naysayers, but that never stopped His action in moving forward sharing the Word He had for the people whether they accepted or rejected what He was delivering. As believers in the Mighty Father, we must take a page from Jesus' book, He always had some who received and some who denied, what makes us think we're any better? You can go from accepted to rejected without warning or cause, but that has ZERO to do with your character and EVERYTHING to do with others' perception, culture, and societal norms. Sometimes our rejection is a means for God to redirect us to a path that better suits the person who He's called us to be; rejection doesn't mean you aren't dope or that you're unworthy, it just means that someone sucked at acknowledging and appreciating your worth and/or ability.

Zero Dean made this statement, "Rejection is neither an indication of value or talent. Remember that. If you believe in what you have to offer, then don’t stop offering it simply because some of those you offer it to reject it. Many people are simply not very good at recognizing talent or value. It doesn’t mean you won’t eventually find an audience that will" (Dean, Z. (2013). 'Rejection is Neither an Indication of Value or Talent', Zerosophy, 3 February. Available at https://rb.gy/mbowix. Accessed 19 April 2021). If you find yourself shifting from accepted to rejected, take pride in that. I believe that 9 times out of 10 it's because they secretly recognize your authentic journey toward advancement, growth, and self-improvement, be it personally, professionally, spiritually, or physically; the individuals doing the rejection are most likely bitter, immature, negative thinkers, energy demanders, and still unsure of themselves. An even stronger possibility is that God is shifting your focus to ensure that you're walking the path that is in alignment with His will, for your betterment. They say "misery loves company" but if/when your misery becomes your company, it's time to pack your bags and introduce yourself to new things, new people, new cultures, and new environments until you've cultivated joy and contentment. Then, expect to do it all again because growth is an everlasting process; if you're comfortable it's probably time to discover if there are areas in your life that God is leading you to improve, and while you do, bank on going from being accepted to rejected by others along the way, but DON'T take it personally. #SOW

POWER IN PRAYER: POWER IN PRAYER: Lord we thank you for life, love, grace, mercy, and favor. We're grateful that despite our transgressions you've forgiven us and accept our flaws and all, even when others reject us. Activate and accelerate your character traits within us, so that we may best serve others as efficient vessels for your Kingdom. Lord turn our attention and desire away from man's favor so that our focus is to seek alignment and approval from you. May we do exceedingly well as the salt and light in this world even if we go from being accepted to rejected. We ask to be delivered from strongholds, familiar spirits, bleak mindsets, demonic and negative influences, and soul ties; reveal the areas of our lives that need improvement and bring us to a place of understanding and receiving so that we develop a willingness and readiness to put into application the steps in which you have disclosed. Holy Spirit, fall fresh on us with a double anointing to inherit wisdom, knowledge, discernment, and understanding; may we use those blessings appropriately to think, speak, and behave in a way that glorifies you. Lord, we believe, but help our unbelief. As your angels and Holy Spirit do your bidding on Earth and in Heaven, protect us and them with your recourse as you bind, loose, and cast out the demonic spirits of distraction, destruction, retaliation, revenge, and backlash. All these things we ask and thank you, in the matchless name of Yeshua, Amen!

HEALTHY LIVING TIPS: Change begins within... Looking for an alternative meat substitute that isn't processed? Try making some homemade walnut "meat."

Soak a cup of raw walnuts with 1/4 of a cup of raw pumpkin seeds in some warm water for about 30-45 minutes, drain then rinse.
Pour the nuts and seeds into a food processor with some mushrooms and/or tofu.
Add about 1 tablespoon of soy sauce or liquid aminos, and a couple of splashes of what I like to call "Westchester" sauce because it's easier to pronounce than its actual name - Worcestershire.
I've only made this meat substitute for a breakfast scramble and tacos so far, so the seasoning profile I'm suggesting will be more on a fiesta tip: 1 teaspoon of paprika, garlic powder, and cumin, a dash of black pepper, chicken-less seasoning, mushroom umami seasoning, and citrusy garlic seasoning. I was fasting from meat and dairy the week that I executed this recipe, so all the dry seasonings I used were vegan.
Use the pulse setting to blend the ingredients, otherwise, it'll turn into mush, until the contents resemble beef crumbles.
Heat avocado, olive, or coconut oil on medium heat. Sauté some minced garlic, onions, and bell peppers for added flavor. Add your alternative meat, and simmer for about 4-5 minutes. If you cook it too long it'll make the crumbles dry with a texture of old taco meat crumbs that were sitting out overnight. Add more oil if needed.
Prepare your tacos or add some crumbled tofu with turmeric for color, and season to taste, mushrooms, peppers, kale, and/or spinach for a breakfast scramble.
Serve and eat.

Walnut meat can be used in burritos, tacos, over salad, chili, spaghetti, breakfast scrambles, and anything else your imagination can conjure up. If you're not fond of my season choices, The Simple Veganista listed these alternatives to add depths of flavor to your meatless meat.

Mexican: cumin, chili powder, chipotle powder, cayenne, coriander, paprika, cilantro, and/or lime.
Italian: oregano, basil, marjoram, sun-dried tomatoes, sage, thyme, rosemary, Italian seasoning, or Herbs de Provence.
American: garlic powder, onion powder, thyme, salt, and pepper.
Indian: garlic, onion or ginger powder, turmeric, cumin, coriander, paprika, garam masala, and/or cayenne.

Reference: (Julie. (2012). 'Walnut Meat (4 Ways)', The Simple Veganista. Available at https://rb.gy/e4n7ac. Accessed 19 April 2021)

As always, be mindful of the things you feed your body, both physically and figuratively. Be safe, be blessed, and prioritize your health and wellbeing!

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, or in need of general support, I invite you to join my virtual support group via Zoom; we meet every 3rd Sunday at 2:30 pm PST. Just text "heal" to (323) 800-8616 to be added to our text notifications/reminders. This week we'll be discussing how to cope with traumatic memories. #thecurseisbroken
Please take a moment to register your Ralph's, Food 4 Less, and/or Kroger Rewards cards to enroll your member number/phone number for the Ralph's/Food 4 Less Community Contribution Program to help Fostering Mind, Body, and Soul Incorporated (aka FMBS Inc., serving communities throughout Southern Cali since 2012) raise funds to give back to the community; for every purchase you make, a small % is given as a donation to our non-profit organization - your rewards points are NOT affected by this enrollment. To enroll, you must go to their website here http://www.friendsindeedpas.org/get-involved/ralphs-community-contribution-program/ and link your rewards cards and/or telephone numbers (Alt ID) to our organization each year, and we will earn money for every purchase made under your rewards cards. Your continued support is always appreciated.
Update on my 1st children's book, Color Isn't Who I AM © 2019: it's one step closer to being on a bookshelf near you.
Fostering Mind, Body, and Soul Incorporated (FMBS Inc.) helps to facilitate making an impact in surrounding at-risk and underprivileged communities throughout Southern California. Part of our mission is to help supply the homeless as well as needy families with food and hygiene bags throughout the year and especially during the holidays and to serve as mentors and/or advocates for at-risk youth and victims of abuse. But we've been on hiatus due to a lack of support from volunteers and board members. Help me get FMBS Inc. back active in the community yall! I have tons of ideas, yet, little know-how. However, I'm willing to learn; if you have any helpful information or affordable training opportunities please share, and reach out to me regarding your interest in service and/or to arrange another form of contribution; contact me via email at fmbsinc_2012@outlook.com, or leave a voicemail and/or text at (951) 790-2127.

Respectfully,

Thursday, April 15, 2021

Conflict by Peaceful Means (4/14/2021)

SALUTATIONS: Hey yall! I hope yall had a wonderful week thus far. Have you ever had a conflict so difficult to move past that you just gave up on the individual or situation altogether? What about a dispute so intense that your connection with someone was ruined? More commonly, have you ever been at discord to the point of throwing bows, or stepping outside of your Christianity (however that may look to you)? I'm sure you resonated with at least one of those scenarios. For me, I've experienced them all to some degree. This week we're discovering that friction is inevitable; we'll explore ways to approach conflict by peaceful means. Let's get into it. As always, take time to review ALL of the Announcements, Healthy Living Tips, and other information detailed below, following the Reflections and Power in Prayer, whenever time permits. Your continued support is always appreciated. Keep spreading God's Gospel and feel free to share the Scripture of the Week with the hashtag SOW. Enjoy! **Disclaimer: Production and distribution days of the SOW are subject to change without warning*

PRAISE REPORTS: I am grateful to be a dreamer. Despite not having the absolute clarity on which direction I should run in, God continues to impregnate me with ideas for my future. Father, we praise you through our storms, for our past conflicts and resolutions, our current struggles, our future triumphs, and for mending our unbelief. Hallelujah! If you have a specific praise report, please share, because we “overcame [the adversary] by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of [our] testimony” (Revelation 12:11). **NOTE: All praise reports are shared with reference to your name unless anonymity is specified**

PRAYER REQUESTS: If any of you joined me in fasting last week please share any revelations or blessings you've encountered. This week, I think it imperative that we pray for wisdom, clarity, and understanding. Let's continue to pray for one another and thank Yahweh for the victory while refraining from confessing the problem caused by the enemy; ALWAYS pray for the desired result, NOT the unfavorable outcome (refer to the book The Tongue – A Creative Force, by Charles Capps; you can download your FREE copy here https://rb.gy/niy4go). If you or someone you know needs prayer, let me know, and your request will be added to the following SOW. **NOTE: All prayer requests are shared with reference to your name and need unless anonymity is specified**

BE ENCOURAGED: NEVER lose sight of God amidst adversity… Ponder this: "Peace is not the absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means" (Ronald Reagan). I'm no theological scholar, and even if I were a pastor or an expert on God's word, I would still advise you NEVER to take someone else's word as solid truth; "Study to show thyself approved" (2 Timothy 2:15), and CHALLENGE EVERYTHING by comparing it to the Word of God. If what you see, hear, or read does NOT fall in line with the Word of God, then it is NOT true... The rest of this day isn't promised, let alone tomorrow, so why not strengthen your faith TODAY? Feed your body healthy nutrition, be cautious of what things you allow your eyes, ears, and spirit to be exposed to (e.g., media, books, TV, music, etc.) so that YOU can start anew and become a better you NOW, rather than later. If you need someone to help you get there, or you're looking for an accountability partner, you've come to the right place. Here I am.

FEATURED SONGS OF PRAISE: "I'll Fight For You" by Mali Music (you can listen to it here https://rb.gy/1k9hyb) and "Give Me Your Peace" by Gateway Worship (you can listen to it here https://rb.gy/mer2a5). I would also like to recommend Classical for Studying Radio on Pandora to better facilitate your meditation on the Word as you study, you can listen to that station here https://rb.gy/wtbmva.

KEY PASSAGE(S) – MATTHEW 18:15: "Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother."

**Unless otherwise indicated all Scripture quotations are taken from the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible retrieved from https://www.biblegateway.com/passage**

REFLECTIONS: Oftentimes we get so bent out of shape in our quarrels that we immediately go over a person's head before addressing the issue with them directly. STOP thinking people can read your mind. What's common, normal, or acceptable to one person may not be the case for another. For instance, a coworker does something that you feel he/she should not be doing. Instead of going to that person directly to find out why they did or didn't do something, you notify your supervisor, creating unnecessary tension between the two of you because the issue could've been resolved one-on-one had you approached the coworker before the supervisor. Or, maybe your significant other didn't respond to a subtle cue that you deemed obvious. In turn, you give him/her the silent treatment for a day or so, or perhaps you just give them a stank attitude without ever explaining your disappointment in their actions or lack thereof. Only one thing comes from this approach to conflict, it festers and eventually blows up at the most inopportune time. Therefore, a KEY factor in conflict resolution is communication - EFFECTIVE communication at that.

The Greek word for "brother" in our key passage is adelphos, which refers to a fellow believer whether male or female. If you read a few verses further, you'll see that in context we're being advised to take our concerns up the chain of command; "16 But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' 17 If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, 'you’ll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God’s forgiving love.'" (Matthew 18:16-17, NIV & MSG). Part of healthy conflict resolution is forgiveness. I think a common misperception with the saying "forgive and forget" is the interpretation that one must physically forget the wrong the other individual did to them. Conversely, the act of forgiving and forgetting is letting go of that thing you were sore about and moving forward from it. Meaning, when you and that individual bump heads later down the line, the old issue doesn't rear its ugly face into a new one. If love is the theme of the Bible, and the supreme commandment, then when we're walking with the Lord in love, we are slow to anger, kind, gentle, caring, and merciful. If you find your character the opposite of those adjectives, then perhaps the conflict is with self as opposed to the individual you're projecting your anger toward.

As I stated before the BEST way to tackle conflict by peaceful means is through effective communication. Let's explore what that looks like:

The first step is to keep it 100 - acknowledge that a conflict exists.
Next, instead of allowing pride, fear, or stubbornness to serve as a barrier to conflict resolution, determine the root of your anger: are you hurt, frustrated, or afraid of something?
After you've determined the root of your anger, establish what result you are hoping to reach from your resolution?
Then, take your concern directly to the person involved. “Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional” (Max Lucado); if you're looking for a resolution, then AVOID gossiping about the issue you're having, AVOID involving 3rd parties, mediators, and friends. Talk to that person in private, listen actively and without interruption (remove emotion from the equation to understand their state of mind), and be sensitive to their point of view. Basically, approach them the way you would want to be approached.
AVOID venting, it only fuels your anger, and contrary to popular belief, it doesn't serve you or anyone else involved. It's ok to EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATE your anger, but venting is NOT that. Rather, venting merely allows you to let out pent-up emotions without an aim for resolution. Thus, the negativity is spewed out without tact or consideration of others, nor with a purpose of resolve. Instead, clearly state your observation (e.g., "You ignored me when you saw that I was upset," or "You did/didn't do this when..."). Then, explain how it hurt you (e.g., "When you did/didn't do that, it made me feel... resentful, angry, sad, or combative").
Now that you've established the what and how, discuss the change you're wanting to see. Sometimes an apology is all that's expected. However, when it's a working relationship or an intimate relationship, the apology is almost always expected to elicit a change, to correct the issue, and/or prevent further instances.
When your aim is reconciliation, the goal is to restore the relationship. Therefore, AVOID trying to prove who was right, AVOID tit for tat (revenge), and get to the root of the issue to determine the most effective way to repair and mend your conflict by peaceful means.

#SOW

POWER IN PRAYER: POWER IN PRAYER: Lord we thank you for life, health, strength, and sound mind. We are grateful for your mercy, grace, forgiveness, and love. Show us your ways and stir up in us your character so that we are the salt and light in this world - the living examples of your Word. We ask for wisdom, clarity, and understanding, Father so that we will know your direction and abide by it. Establish in us an intentional God-centered life committed to maintaining a close relationship with you. Reveal the secrets of your Truth, the environments and company that are for us, the path we ought to be on, with whom we should be walking, and how to traverse. Bring us into alignment with you so that we are discerning in our thoughts, words, and actions. Give us the strength to let go of the things and people that no longer serve us so that we will choose to serve you more efficiently. May your Spirit permeate in us so that we are effectively communicating and seeking healthy ways to tackle conflict by peaceful means. May our trust in you be secure enough to believe that you have already worked things out. As your angels and Holy Spirit do your bidding on Earth and in Heaven, protect us and them with your recourse as you bind, loose, and cast out the demonic spirits of distraction, destruction, retaliation, revenge, and backlash. All these things we ask in the matchless name of Yeshua, Amen!

HEALTHY LIVING TIPS: Change begins within... So look, if you already read the Reflections, then you can just skate past today's tips and maybe check out the Announcements because they're pretty much the same. But if you're here for the tips, we're discussing 8 steps to resolving conflict peacefully.

Acknowledge that a conflict exists.
Determine the root of your anger: are you hurt, frustrated, or afraid of something?
Establish what result you are hoping to reach from your resolution.
Address your concern directly to the person involved. “Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional” (Max Lucado); if you're looking for a resolution, then AVOID gossiping about the issue you're having, AVOID involving 3rd parties, mediators, and friends. Talk to that person in private, listen actively and without interruption (remove emotion from the equation to understand their state of mind), and be sensitive to their point of view. Basically, approach them the way you would want to be approached.
AVOID venting, it only fuels your anger, and contrary to popular belief, it doesn't serve you or anyone else involved. It's ok to EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATE your anger, but venting is NOT that. Rather, venting merely allows you to let out pent-up emotions without an aim for resolution. Thus, the negativity is spewed out without tact or consideration of others, nor with a purpose of resolve.
Clearly state your observation (e.g., "You ignored me when you saw that I was upset," or "You did/didn't do this when..."). Then, explain how it hurt you (e.g., "When you did/didn't do that, it made me feel... resentful, angry, sad, or combative").
Discuss the change you want to see. Sometimes an apology is all that's expected. However, when it's a working relationship or an intimate relationship, the apology is almost always expected to elicit a change, to correct the issue, and/or prevent further instances.
Restore the relationship. If reconciliation is your aim, AVOID trying to prove who was right, AVOID tit for tat (revenge), and get to the root of the issue to determine the most effective way to repair and mend your conflict by peaceful means.

As always, be mindful of the things you feed your body, both physically and figuratively. Be safe, be blessed, and prioritize your health and wellbeing!

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

If you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, or in need of general support, I invite you to join my virtual support group via Zoom; we meet every 3rd Sunday at 2:30 pm PST. Just text "heal" to (323) 800-8616 to be added to our text notifications/reminders. This week we'll be discussing how to cope with traumatic memories. #thecurseisbroken
Please take a moment to register your Ralph's, Food 4 Less, and/or Kroger Rewards cards to enroll your member number/phone number for the Ralph's/Food 4 Less Community Contribution Program to help Fostering Mind, Body, and Soul Incorporated (aka FMBS Inc., serving communities throughout Southern Cali since 2012) raise funds to give back to the community; for every purchase you make, a small % is given as a donation to our non-profit organization - your rewards points are NOT affected by this enrollment. To enroll, you must go to their website here http://www.friendsindeedpas.org/get-involved/ralphs-community-contribution-program/ and link your rewards cards and/or telephone numbers (Alt ID) to our organization each year, and we will earn money for every purchase made under your rewards cards. Your continued support is always appreciated.
Fostering Mind, Body, and Soul Incorporated (FMBS Inc.) helps to facilitate making an impact in surrounding at-risk and underprivileged communities throughout Southern California. Part of our mission is to help supply the homeless as well as needy families with food and hygiene bags throughout the year and especially during the holidays and to serve as mentors and/or advocates for at-risk youth and victims of abuse. But we've been on hiatus due to a lack of support from volunteers and board members. Help me get FMBS Inc. back active in the community yall! I have tons of ideas, yet, little know-how. However, I'm willing to learn; if you have any helpful information or affordable training opportunities please share, and reach out to me regarding your interest in service and/or to arrange another form of contribution; contact me via email at fmbsinc_2012@outlook.com, or leave a voicemail and/or text at (951) 790-2127.

Respectfully,

Tylesha "Tye" Allen
Behavioral Interventionist | Mobile Notary | CEO/Founder of FMBS Inc.
·         Mobile: (951) 790-2127
·         Address: Los Angeles, CA
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·         Email: professional1_99@hotmail.com
·         Change begins within; work on becoming a better You
·         "It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man." (Psalm 118:8)